Dear Blokes #3

DEAR BLOKES,

If you’re back here, thank you – that already puts you ahead of quite a few.

Today’s topic – guilt and boundaries – might sound like a “her” issue. It isn’t.

When the woman you love says, “I’m exhausted,” or “I need a break,” she’s not attacking you. By the time she says it out loud, she has probably been thinking about it for months, talked herself out of it a hundred times, and only just scraped together the courage to bring it up.

So instead of “What do you need me to do?”, try:
“If you had a week completely to yourself, what would you do?”

Then really listen to the answer.

If she is trying to build a better fence around her time and energy, your job is simple: notice when she’s saying yes out of habit and back her boundary. It might be a week away, or it might just be space to finish a HOT coffee without three interruptions. Either way, your support is the difference between fantasy and follow-through.

This is what I mean when I talk about partnering with purpose – two grown-ups, both with a life and a lane, building something that doesn’t chew either of you up in the process.

Love from us x