Dear Blokes #3
Today’s topic – guilt and boundaries – might sound like a “her” issue. It isn’t.
Your SPACE Prescription – Anti Guilt Calculator
“7 questions • 2 reflections • ~2 minutes”
(A two-minute, guilt-free receipt for time out.)
You’ve carried the mental load, the logistics, the “remembering for everyone” for years – and possibly not stopped often (if at all) to hear yourself think. This is not a rant; it’s a receipt. In two minutes, Your SPACE Prescription quietly tallies what you’ve already given – then converts it into a calm, neutral SPACE Prescription receipt you can save, print, or share. No blame. No charts. Just facts = validation. For services rendered! Designed for households with older kidlets or kidults still in the nest, or with partners – hovering and floundering and looking to ‘be together’ because they haven’t figured out their next bit. For darling Mums/and Carers with younger children – let this serve as your insurance policy, time invested in yourself now might avoid utter depletion (oh and keep your eye on your Superannuation/Pension and keep speaking up for assistance. Parenting is not a solo job, even if you are solo, let’s bring back the village wherever we might find that solace).
How it works (fast):
- Answer seven quick questions while your coffee is still hot.
- See Your SPACE Prescription (time-out recommended + when to go + suggested style).
- Copy the language to claim it – kind, clear, and very printable for the fridge.
Why it matters:
Because doing everything is how we vanish. Time-out isn’t indulgent, it’s recovery. This tool gives you language and proof, so you can take what you’re owed and come back more centred, less restless.
Privacy note: nothing is saved unless you choose to email the SPACE Prescription to yourself.
Household Setup
This determines what support block appears later. It does not affect your score.
1. Your household reality right now is…
2. In a typical week, how often do you get 90 uninterrupted minutes to yourself?
3. Energy check — be honest.
4. The mental/household load you carry is…
5. When did you last take a solo break (not for work)?
6. Finances & fairness gut-check
7. What shows up when you think about going? (story vs fact)
Bonus Round — Gentle Self-Check
Tick any that feel true. (This does not affect prescription tier.)
Which line could you actually live with on your fridge this week?
A Grown Up's Gap Year
If you would like to learn more A Grown Up’s Gap Year is available here
If you do decide to take your ‘adventure’ further afield you might also enjoy the FREE resource ‘The Wellbeing Travel Guides – packing tips from a travel expert’ downloadable guide here
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If I’d stayed in that executive role instead of doing all of this – work we would’ve had to outsource at real cost – this is roughly what the financial picture would look like.
Journal Prompts and Book Club Questions
The shape of your Grown Up’s Gap Year will be unique – let conversations and/or your pen flow, allowing the surprises to unfold. Use these prompts as springboards for inspiration, adventure, and joyful seeking.
